MAN MUST THINK, BUT MUST NOT WORRY.
Worry is human nature. When a desire is not fulfilled or result of any effort is not commensurate to expectation, one gets worried. It is entirely a state of mind which makes one to feel worried. It is because of our separateness with the other from whom one expects something good. Worry is not necessary. It is only because one’s mind thinks so. If we consider that one is really dreaming while awake and it is a false experience, then there would be no reason to worry even in all adverse circumstances.
Opposite to worry is happiness which also felt through mind. It is also false and fleeting experience. It gives enjoyment and continues till an adverse situation comes into play to cause one worry again. These may appear in alternate cycle and span of the happiness or worry may be long and short according to one’s destiny.
The nature of worry, its cause and its solution is all described in Baba’s words as under:
Duality signifies separateness. Separateness implies fear. Fear causes worry.
The way of Oneness is the way to happiness; the way of manyness is the way to worry. I am the One who has no second, so I am eternally happy. You are separate from your Self, so you always worry. To you, what you see is absolutely real; to Me, it is absolutely false.
Root cause of worry
Man experiences disappointment through lust, greed and anger, and the frustrated ego, in its turn, seeks further gratification through lust, greed, and anger. Consciousness is thus caught up in a vicious circle of endless disappointments. Selfishness which is the common basis of these three ingredient vices is thus the ultimate cause of disappointment and worries.
The woes of this world are imaginary and self-created
As the cause, so the effect; the cause may be big and important, or small and insignificant, but the result will definitely be according to it. The woes of this world are imaginary and are the self-created result of our own ignorance; having no cause, they are therefore unjustifiable. If there is no reason or cause, then it naturally follows that the result is unreal, insubstantial and meaningless.
So why worry about the happiness, or misery, of this world which has no cause behind it except imagination? Just go on observing things as a passive spectator as they go on around you, keeping the mind free and happy. As Hafiz says:
"Both the happiness’s and sorrows of the world will pass away. So it is better to remain peaceful throughout."
Worry is unnecessary
“Worry is unnecessary. Necessary worry is not good, but unnecessary worry is madness. If I say: 'Be happy!' be happy at once! Forget. Away with it! Why brood? I never brood. Laugh! Be cheerful! It is all illusion — why not be cheerful, happy? Start now!"
“Worry accumulates and grows in strength, become a habit long after the original cause has ceased to be.”
Do everything, but don't worry. Worrying binds. When one is beyond worrying, one is happy. But you must consciously not worry. The stone does not worry, but unconsciously. It is all fun, all a game, happiness — if you don't worry. (Love alone prevails-p-241)
Don’t worry and weep over that which is the law of nature and cannot be altered
You eat food and to keep yourselves healthy and fit you pass out the residue as excrement. But do you ever shed tears for the waste you eliminate? Do you ever think about it or feel regret over it? Not at all. Then if someone dear dies, why do you weep for that discarded body which is like food to the soul?
You preserve and protect your body to feed your soul. The body is the medium for the soul's progress. When your excrement is eliminated, you eat fresh food. Similarly, with the disposal of the old body, you take a new body. So why worry and weep over that which is the law of nature and cannot be altered?
Sadgurus and the Avatar consider human death to be absolutely unimportant. They do not feel sad about anyone's death. For them, the whole universe is a very, very small thing – a small point.
The human body can be compared to the fibers on the outer shell of a coconut. Hundreds of such hairs fall off, but the coconut water remains safe inside. Similarly, thousands of human bodies may fall, but the soul is immortal; it never dies. It is always living and eternal.
Solution for worry
The moment the intensity of your faith in Me will reach its height, you say goodbye to worry forever. Then all that you suffered and enjoyed in the past, together with all that you may experience in the future, will be to you the most loving and spontaneous expression of My will; and nothing will ever be able to cause you worry again.
Live more and more in the present, which is ever beautiful and stretches away beyond the limits of the past and the future.
Cease mental tension. Train your mind to pass over thoughts. Do not give countenance to them until such time that you can surrender the mind itself. When the mind is surrendered there is no question of happiness and unhappiness. The thoughts of the past lives sanskaras have to be spent away and they come and go and pay no attention to them.
If you worry about yourself, God does not worry about you. If you stop worrying, God has to be worrying about you.
Give your worries to Me and be cheerful and happy. Your only worry should be that you never forget God.
You become free of all worries, if you snap your connection with the world. However, if you maintain any deep connection, worries will surmount you. Bindings are like hair the more you allow the hair to grow, the more you have to clean it. Similarly worldly involvements are always full of unnecessary problems and difficulties and are the cause of continuous anxieties.
Don’t worry about evil thoughts, lust etc, Let them come and go. Do worry so that you may not forget Me.
Your only worry should be that you never forget God.
Whatever effort you make, whatever failures seem to result and whatever discouragement follows all have their root in the fact that you love yourself more than you love God. In loving yourself as wholeheartedly as you should love God, it is but natural that failure despair will bar your way.
Therefore do not let the fact of your depression burden you. It emerged unsought and unmarked for and as such it must vanish. All your forced efforts to settle it will only result in imprinting it deeper in your mind and create further binding. So be completely indifferent to it and it will disappear.
The solution is to love God as He should be loved; it is love for God that counts.
Think of Me more and more and all your worries will dwindle into nothing, for they are really nothing: and My will works out to awaken this in you and in all.”
If at all you must worry, let it be how to remember Me constantly. This is worthwhile worry because it will bring about the end of the worry. So do worry that you may not forget Me.
Don’t worry. Be happy in My love and continue to hold My daaman to the very end. Rest assured that all will be divinely well. God does not abandon those who trust Him.
Do everything, but don't worry. Worrying binds. When one is beyond worrying, one is happy. But you must consciously not worry. The stone does not worry, but unconsciously. It is all fun, all a game, happiness - if you don't worry.
Do not think much over petty questions and wear out your mind. This constant thinking weighs heavy on your mind, and causes you much worry and anxiety for nothing. Do not let any material thoughts disturb your mind and eat it away.
Do not be like a leaf, moved here and there by the wind. Be like a rock, unaffected by gales and storm, and standing firm in its place.
What do you do when a fly troubles and disturbs you? You do not worry, but merely raise your hand and wave it to drive it away from you. In the same way, without giving yourself up to worrying, you must drive away the thoughts that trouble you.
Man must think but must not worry for results
Baba Says: “Pain and pleasure are two sides are of one coin. When we have accepted this coin of life, we cannot say that we will take one side only i.e. pleasure. Since we are now here in the world, we have no choice.”
One must sincerely try to do his duties, but the results must be always left with God. Worrying about the result is no good and of no use. If a person wishes to do anything for others, he must do it sincerely and having done it, he should not worry about results, for results are not in human hands. It is for human to do, for God to ordain.
To remain aloof from result is not difficult, but men do not try. Because it is human nature to think of results of one’s actions, however, it does not mean one should worry
Try to attribute all your acts to God and let results be His. Gandhiji says he does everything for God and attributes it to Him, but he still worries because he cares about the results.”
One must sincerely try to do his duties, but the results must always be left with God. Worrying about the results is no good and of no use. If a person wishes to do anything for others, he must do it sincerely. And having done it, he should not worry about the results, for results are not in human hands. It is for humans to do, for God to ordain.
To remain aloof from results is not difficult, but men do not try. Because it is human nature to think of the results of one's actions, however, it does not mean one should worry! Man must think, but he must not worry. Try to attribute all your acts to God and let results be His. (Lord Meher, 1st. ed., Bhau Kalchuri, Vol. 5, p. 1866)
Be mentally free and happy. As is the cause, so is the effect. The cause may be big and important, or small and insignificant. But the result will definitely be according to the cause.
Woes of this world are imaginary, and are the self-created result of our own ignorance. Having no cause, they are therefore unjustifiable. If there is no reason or cause, then it naturally follows that the result is unreal, insubstantial and meaningless.
So why worry about the happiness or misery of this world, which has no cause behind it except imagination? Just go on observing things as a passive spectator as they go on around you, keeping the mind free and happy. As Hafiz says, Both the happiness and sorrows of this world will pass away
Try to be Happy
Try to be always happy. Never think that life is dreadful, 'I am tired of life.' Such thoughts really make life miserable. Life is worth living. If you think like that, all difficulties will appear insignificant. Never think “I am alone. I have so much to do, I am poor” and so on. The whole world is poor and even millionaires are poor because they have greed and want more.
I will help you to try to develop love. Never think, 'I am alone,' 'I have so much to do,' 'I am poor,' and so on. All are poor. The whole world is poor. Even the millionaires are poor, because they have greed and want more. Love someone, and I will help you. (Awwakner-p-2)
Happiest is he who expects no happiness from others.
Happiest is he who expects no happiness from others. Love delights and glorifies in giving, not receiving. So learn to love and give, and not to expect anything from others.
You should really feel and consider yourself as the happiest and most fortunate among men that you have renounced the illusion and surrendered to a Perfect Master. You should now feel free from worries and quite at ease, like one who has his burden lifted off his head and feels light.
The great mistake you make is that you lift the burden from your head, but instead of placing it on the head of the One who willingly accepts it with all responsibility; you keep it hanging over you in the air, hesitating to give it lest you lose something valuable! Thus you neither bear the burden, nor allow it to rest on the head of the One who wants it to be transferred – namely Baba. You keep it hanging between the two, and place both under suspense, thereby aggravating your suffering. Either keep it yourself or give it up entirely. (Lord Meher, 1st. ed., Bhau Kalchuri, Vol. 7, p. 2457)