*DIRECTIVES

CRITICISM AND BACKBITING

Don’t criticise. The habit of criticizing our fellow-beings is bad one. At the back of it often lies self-righteousness, conceit and a false sense of superiority; sometimes, it indicates envy or a desire of retaliation.

Before trying to find faults in others and speaking ill of them, try to find your own weaknesses, and correct those.

Innocent and fair criticism does not hurt and is good, but it is quite rare. What I mean by talking ill of others is when you criticise and it hurts. It hurts when you are excited, out of anger. When you criticise with love and kindness, how can it heart?

Do not be angry but be pleased with one who backbites you for thereby he renders service to you by diminishing the load of your sanskaras. Also pity on him for thereby he makes the load of his sanskaras more burdensome. The sanskaras of calumny and defamation are most wicked and troublesome.

Backbiters are your friend as they take over our bad sanskaras to themselves

Any remark or criticism that does not hurt is good. Make fun, joke, humor, but don't hurt anyone and talk back. If you point out the shortcomings of others lovingly, without any feeling of hate or animosity, it is all right. Even arguing with love is permitted.

If you point out the shortcoming of others lovingly, without any feeling of hate or animosity, it is all right. Even arguing with love is permitted.

The things which Meher Baba will not tolerate in any circumstances and by any one howsoever highly-placed he may be are: (I) observance of caste, especially by orthodox so-called high caste people towards so-called “depressed” or “untouchables” (ii) hypocrisy, posing, and (iii) backbiting.

Remember that the first step in spirituality is not to speak ill of others.

 -Meher Baba

 

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FEAR

Baba discoursed on fear:

Do not be afraid of anything or anyone, and always do the right thing if your conscience accepts it. Do not be at all afraid of God, for if you are afraid of God, how will you be able to love him? Do not be afraid of your Self, because the Self is never independent of you. You are your Self [Parameshwar], and hence there is no use fearing it.

But be afraid of the world and its personification, maya. The material world is dependent upon desires — desires of anger, lust and greed. Fear these, and keep yourself aloof from them as much as possible. Do not fear anything else.

Do people actually fear God? No. They fear the threat of hell where God will put them if their actions are not right. In the same way, do the boys fear Arjun or his cane? The cane, of course, not Arjun himself, for he actually plays with them at times and they willingly play with him.

 

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FASTING OF MIND

One man of the sahavas group asked, "Baba, what do you mean by fasting the mind? I don't try to think, yet thoughts come!"

Baba answered him in detail:

What is fasting of the mind? It is to have no thoughts. This in itself is impossible, but remembers me as often as you can and then your mind will not be in a fumble as to what to think of. You leave your mind to me by having my constant remembrance or taking my name, and there will be no food (thoughts) worth the name for the mind to feed on. Thoughts of me will supersede all other thoughts in your mind.

There is no necessity to starve the stomach. You can do it for your health, but not for spiritual reasons. We are in the habit of eating food at regular intervals. With a few exceptions, when we feel hungry our stomach craves for food, although we may be engrossed in some other work. But when the mind is occupied in some work, the stomach feels satisfied. It is our nature to look at the clock when it is time for food. If we purposely fast, our eyes would constantly be on the clock to see if it is time to break the fast. By such fasting, the bindings become strong. When I ask you to fast, it is something different. (Lord Meher, 1st. ed., Bhau Kalchuri, Vol. 13, pp. 4821 – 4822)

 

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FASTING

Baba following about fasting:

The body will survive for 95 days if one remains only on water. Just as the body feeds on food, so the mind feeds on desires and indulgence in these desires feeds the mind and the ego. So, by starving the mind of these desires, the ego becomes very thin and weak.

In a physical fast, taking only water as you did yesterday, lust is lessened, but anger and hope are increased. During the first three days of a fast, hunger is marked, depression is strong, anger is strengthened and lust is diminished. From the third to the seventh day, there is a fluctuation in feelings: hunger, depression, anger and lust are all lessened, while hope — for everything — is still strong. On the tenth day, the feelings again swing back, and there is increased hunger and anger. This lasts until the 14th day, when the feelings again become calm and remain calm. Thus, after the 14th day, a fast has no spiritual value! (www.lordmeher.org pp-2269-1942)

To eat meat is detrimental to some extent in controlling one’s sexual nature. The main disadvantage is that eating meat increases sexual desires. Consciousness exists in stones, but there is so very little consciousness in stones – almost nothing. It is in vegetation that the evolution of consciousness begins. And consciousness increases as an animal form evolves into another animal form; in man it is complete. With the advance in consciousness, sexuality also increases. The more the consciousness, the more the sexual longing; and the less the consciousness, the less the sexual longing. So, if we eat meat, the degree of sexuality increases in us; but if we remain on vegetarian food then it neither increases nor decreases. (Lord Meher, 1st. ed., Bhau Kalchuri, Vol. 2, pp. 624 – 625.)

Fasting does not increase love. No connection exists between them. All austerities, repetition of God’s name (japas), penances, et cetera, are quite apart from this fast I am telling you to do. Therefore, as long as I do not ask you to fast, why should you? If you want to fast on your own, fast in such a way that your stomach remains full while your mind starves! This is the best fast. (Lord Meher, 1st. ed., Bhau Kalchuri, Vol. 13, p. 4782.)

Baba answered him in detail:One man of the sahavas group asked, "Baba, what do you mean by fasting the mind? I don't try to think, yet thoughts come!"

If such small points start cropping up, there will be no end to explanations. What is fasting of the mind? It is to have no thoughts. This in itself is impossible, but remembers me as often as you can and then your mind will not be in a fumble as to what to think of. You leave your mind to me by having my constant remembrance or taking my name, and there will be no food (thoughts) worth the name for the mind to feed on. Thoughts of me will supersede all other thoughts in your mind.

There is no necessity to starve the stomach. You can do it for your health, but not for spiritual reasons. We are in the habit of eating food at regular intervals. With a few exceptions, when we feel hungry our stomach craves for food, although we may be engrossed in some other work. But when the mind is occupied in some work, the stomach feels satisfied. It is our nature to look at the clock when it is time for food. If we purposely fast, our eyes would constantly be on the clock to see if it is time to break the fast. By such fasting, the bindings become strong.

When I ask you to fast, it is something different.

Lord Meher, 1st. ed., Bhau Kalchuri, Vol. 13, pp. 4821 - 4822.

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CONTROL OVER MIND

Human excrement is totally useless; only swine eat it. Similarly, when the flesh is cut from a carcass, only bones remain and these are thrown to the dogs. Man's mind is like flesh, and his body is like the bones.

A person eats flesh [meat] and digests it, which means he uses it. But the bones are inedible and of no use; so he gives them to dogs, who can chew and utilize them.

A human being must care for his mind, which is like the meat. He should use his mind by training it to flow into the proper channels.

A person has to let go of his physical body sometime, for it cannot be preserved. To illustrate this: suppose one's finger is chopped off or a leg is crippled, he should not worry or weep over it because he knows that his whole physical body has to be discarded one day. But a human being should be most careful about his mind, which is of the utmost use to him. The mind should be directed toward proper spheres; it should be kept in check and utilized.

If this body, which a person has to discard one day, is used for anything, it should be used in the service of three causes: God, the Master and our fellowman. The body may become weary and worn-out — it may bring one suffering — but so what? Man, as a physical being, is destined to suffer. So long as the body is vibrant, active and under one's control, man can be said to have used it for a good cause by directing his energies in any good or noble work.

Lord Neher-1552

Everything depends on the mind. The mind feeds on happiness and misery. The world is really a dream. Happiness and sorrow are plays of the mind; there is no substance in either. In fact, the mind exists to endeavor to see God, but it leaves this aside and becomes caught up in the world. "I want this! I want that!" it shouts. The mind gets one entangled in maya and thereby increases desires. No sooner is one desire satisfied than another is there ready to be satisfied. Thus, one after another, desires increase without limit and they never bring freedom to anyone.

So the man who has control over the mind possesses the whole universe. He has no use for happiness, suffering, health, wealth or anything else. He is beyond all that.

(Lord Meher-1552)

 

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APPOINTMENT WITH THE GOD-MAN HAS SPECIAL SIGNIFICANCE

One day a woman approached Baba for darshan with her child. She requested Baba to bless her baby. Baba commented, "As you wish. But do you remember how last year on your request, I permitted you to visit Guruprasad to have my darshan a second time? You did not come."

From the hundreds who had visited Guruprasad the past year it seemed incredible to the woman that Baba would remember such a small detail. The woman felt ashamed and apologized, explaining, "Baba, treat me as your daughter ... I had to attend my brother's marriage, so I could not come. Please pardon me."

Baba as usual pardoned her, but also remarked, "I forgive you but remember, you yourself asked for an opportunity of which you did not avail. Any appointment with the God-Man has special significance which cannot be repeated. It is difficult to make up that loss. However, now be happy and forget about it."

Lord Meher, 1st. ed., Bhau Kalchuri, Vol. 17, pp. 5854 - 5855.

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HOLD FAST TO MY DAMAN, DON'T COMPROMISE.

Holding fast to my daaman means. Hold me, or leave me! Don't try to compromise. One thing is definite and fixed: if I am the Highest of the High or if I am the lowest of the low, and you hold fast to my daaman, you will be where I will be. This depends on how fast is your grip on my daaman. It matters not if you are saints or sinners.

I will give you one example. In my boyhood, I liked very much to fly kites. You know that kites have long tails and as they soar high in the skies, the tails flutter vigorously. If they hold fast to the kite, they go where the kite flies. It matters little whether the tails are stuck with fine gum or some dirty thing. What is needed is that the grip should not loosen. In the same way, whether you are sinners or saints, if you hold fast to my daaman, you will be wherever I will be.

By holding fast means keep Baba pleased always by your obeying Him wholeheartedly!

Lord Meher online: 3698-99, Painting by : David Berry,
www.davidberryart.com

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JEALOUSY

Only spiritual jealousy of love for Baba is good and beneficial as it imbibes the good sanskaras of other’s love for Baba to whom you are jealous as well as Baba’s (impression less) by keeping Baba always on the back of his mind in doing so.

Always remember, “The impressions of the Beloved, whether in worldly love or divine love, have their effect on you.” If you love “A” his impressions will attach to your mind without your knowing it; and if you become jealous of someone else, the impressions of both will affect you. That is, if Kim loves Me, My impressions, which are divine, will affect her; and if you are jealous of her, then My infinite impressions, plus hers of love for Me, will both affect you.

Therefore, jealousy in physical love is not good, while jealousy in spiritual love is good. Where there is love, there is jealousy. One automatically follows the other; there is no need to create it.

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MY PROTECTION IS REAL PROTECTION. I ALWAYS PROTECT MY LOVERS.

The group's conversation topic turned to wild animals, for there were tigers, lions and bears roaming the jungles surrounding Mysore. Meher Baba advised:

If you ever come across any such savage animals, or if you find yourselves in a perilous situation, cry out my name loudly. I will then save you. Even if you die, you should know that I have saved you, because my protection is real protection. I always protect my lover.

There is a difference between remembering my name and actually saying it out loud. In the eventuality of your body being overcome with fear in the presence of any wild animal or other creature (such as a snake), at such moments of danger you should loudly cry out my name so loud that the sound of my name falls on the creature's ears which will immediately make it as meek as a lamb!

But before inanimate objects, during any serious mishap or accident – such as a car crash or train wreck – you will be saved by remembering me with full faith from the bottom of your heart.

Baba then touched on the various stages of development:

A person has to pass through three stages before Realization – evolution, reincarnation and advancement on the path. From stone to animal to human form is evolution; this is the first stage. With the human form, evolution ends and the cycle of rebirth begins; this is the second stage. The third stage is involution through the spiritual planes.

In Africa there is a full swing of evolution, as all types of animals, plants and metals are found there. In Europe and America, reincarnation is intensified with numerous people taking birth after birth entangled together. In Asia there is spiritual progress and advancement on the path. That is why saints and Masters are found in the East, particularly India.

Lord Meher, Bhau Kalchuri, Vol. 4, p. 1276.

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ARTI, PUJA, GARLANDING & BOWING DOWN ARE MEANINGLESS

Baba said:

“The mass darshan programs at Hamirpur, U.P. (Uttar Pradesh), Andhra, and the Deccan have been enough now. And I tell you as gospel truth with my divine authority that these programs, messages and addresses mean nothing on the spiritual path. My arti, my puja, garlanding me, bowing down to me mean absolutely nothing. From ages eternal, Gods and angels have been doing My worship. So why all this unnecessary waste of money through garlands, fruits and offerings? What I want is real work done.”
Lord Meher online edition, pg. 3504, March 1, 1954.