CRITICISM AND BACKBITING
Don’t criticise. The habit of criticizing our fellow-beings is bad one. At the back of it often lies self-righteousness, conceit and a false sense of superiority; sometimes, it indicates envy or a desire of retaliation.
Before trying to find faults in others and speaking ill of them, try to find your own weaknesses, and correct those.
Innocent and fair criticism does not hurt and is good, but it is quite rare. What I mean by talking ill of others is when you criticise and it hurts. It hurts when you are excited, out of anger. When you criticise with love and kindness, how can it heart?
Do not be angry but be pleased with one who backbites you for thereby he renders service to you by diminishing the load of your sanskaras. Also pity on him for thereby he makes the load of his sanskaras more burdensome. The sanskaras of calumny and defamation are most wicked and troublesome.
Backbiters are your friend as they take over our bad sanskaras to themselves
Any remark or criticism that does not hurt is good. Make fun, joke, humor, but don't hurt anyone and talk back. If you point out the shortcomings of others lovingly, without any feeling of hate or animosity, it is all right. Even arguing with love is permitted.
If you point out the shortcoming of others lovingly, without any feeling of hate or animosity, it is all right. Even arguing with love is permitted.
The things which Meher Baba will not tolerate in any circumstances and by any one howsoever highly-placed he may be are: (I) observance of caste, especially by orthodox so-called high caste people towards so-called “depressed” or “untouchables” (ii) hypocrisy, posing, and (iii) backbiting.
Remember that the first step in spirituality is not to speak ill of others.